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Tuesday, October 17, 2006

And another... ________________________________________________________________

Spare a thought my little Ash...she is having a bit of a rough time at the moment. She is really down in the dumps about her face, wanting to "look like a normal girl" but not wanting any more operations.

I spoke to her surgeon today, and he said that he didn't want to do any more surgery just yet due to all the scar tissue and risk doing damage that he can't undo. He would rather wait until she grows a bit more. He thinks that by the time she is an adult, her face will look much better as she will "grow into her face" and that while her face will never be symmetrical, it will be better than it is today.

He further recommended a clinical psychologist for her so that she can establish some "coping mechanisms" to learn how to be comfortable with herself and her appearance. I pray for a miracle, but I know that isn't going to happen. She just wants it "gone" and it never will be. I only hope that as she grows older she finds people who look beyond physical beauty and see her for the person that she is.

I don't know how many tears I've cried for her, but as her mummy, I just want to be able to take away her worries, self-conciousness and sadness and deal with it for her. I want to be able to protect her from the nasty children (and sometimes nasty adults) that cross her path from time to time, but as her mummy I know that she doesn't need my protection, she needs my support and the strength to hold her head high and know that she is a beautiful, caring (although somewhat difficult) girl, no matter what other people may say about her. This isn't going to be an easy road for her over the next few years, as I remember all too vividly the teasing that I endured at school for being "four-eyed" and "fat" and there will be many more tears, all because society says we must be "perfect" and anyone who is different is inferior.

Love you Ash.

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Name: Sharon

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Married to Michael and mum to two gorgeous children, who are the light of my life. I love to read, scrapbook and make cards. We are a Christian family and enjoy spending time with family and friends. I work as an accountant and help run my hubby's web design and hosting business.

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